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Simple Nikah in Qur’an & Sunnah

 

  Fardh Wajib Sunnah Mustahabb Mubah (permissible)
1 Offer (Ijaab) and Acceptance (Qabool) between the bride and the groom.[1] Mehr[2] Nikah Sermon/Khutbah[3] Nikah to be done in the Masjid on a Friday after Jumu’ah or Asr[4] Distributing or scattering of dry dates after the Nikah khutbah[5]
2 Two mature Muslim male witnesses or one male and two female.[6] Walimah[7]

 

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رضى الله عنها، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ

قَالَ : إِنَّ أَعْظَمَ النِّكَاحِ بَرَكَةً أَيْسَرُهُ مَئُونَةً

“The marriage with the greatest blessing is the one with the least expenditures.” [8] Noble Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

“There is no aspect of a Muslim’s life which is bereft of the Shari’ah. Moreover, acting on each command of the Shari’ah earns reward and violation thereupon results in sin. What a shame that in the same way, we have become totally careless of the Sunnah mode of eating, similarly, we are abysmally neglectful of the ibaadah of nikah wherein we endeavour to appease, accommodate and please everybody except Allah and His Messenger ﷺ to the extent that we regard marriage as an occasion to fulfil every whim and fancy (whether it be permissible or impermissible)” [Shaykh Abul Hasan Ali Nadwi, 1914-1999] [9]

 

Cultural Practices

Anything not listed in the above table will fall under cultural practice, therefore, unnecessary, possibly haram, and sinful. Some examples are: haldi party[10], hiring of DJ’s, dancing and playing of musical instruments at grand entry, hiring dancers, the bride and groom on stage in the presence of ghayr-mahram[11], exchange of gifts (gold, dresses, watch, clothing, jewellery, etc.) due to societal/familial pressure or deeply rooted customs, musical performances, excessive photography, etc.

 

Recommendation

Engaged couples and their parents are strongly advised to consult their local Imam or trusted Islamic scholar when planning for their wedding function. Nikah is an act of worship and a sunnah of all the prophets. The spirituality of this act of worship should not be violated with unlawful practices and traditions originating from polytheistic and/or non-Muslim cultures. With the guidance of the Imam, In Sha Allah the wedding will be a source of mercy and reward from Allah Ta’ala.

By Mawlana Mushtaq Shaikh

 

Notes:

[1] Fatawaa Mahmudiyyah v. 10 pg. 474 Q. 5193

[2] Al-Hidayah v. 2 pg. 323

Mehr – Dowry paid by a husband to his wife. Becomes the property of the wife to spend, save, or invest as she pleases, although, in some countries, it is often taken by the bride’s family. Can be either money or property. May be paid all at once or split into two payments, one upon marriage and the other at a time stipulated in the marriage contract, such as upon the death of the husband or divorce.

[3] Fatawaa Mahmudiyyah v. 10 pg. 590 Q. 5288

[4] Fatawaa Mahmudiyyah v. 10 pg. 474 Q. 5193; ’Ilaa al-Sunan v. 11 pg. 7; Fatawaa Darul Uloom Zakaria v. 3 pg. 560-561; https://daruliftaa.com/nikah-marriage/is-it-a-sunna-to-get-married-on-a-friday/

[5] ’Ilaa al-Sunan v. 11 pg. 13-15; Fatawaa Mahmudiyyah v. 10 pg. 470 Q. 5189; Fatawaa Darul Uloom Zakaria v. 1 pg. 555-557; v. 3 pg. 654

[6] Dars Tirmidhi, v. 3 pg. 383 – 384

[7] Dars Tirmidhi, v. 3 pg. 369; ’Ilaa al-Sunan v. 11 pg. 13-15; Fatawaa Darul Uloom Zakaria v. 3 pg. 643-644

Walimah – is the food that is served to one’s family, relatives and friends following a marriage. The feast is provided by the husband within three days of consummating the marriage. The Walimah is not the responsibility of the bride or her family.

[8] Musnad Ahmed, #24529

[9] Ashraf’s Blessings of Marriage, Pg. 90

[10] Turmeric, known as Haldi in India is the sacred spice recognized for its health, beauty, and spiritual properties. Turmeric holds a special place in Indian Hindu weddings and that is quite apparent from the fact that one entire ceremony before the wedding day is named after this golden spice and is called Haldi Ceremony.

https://askimam.org/public/question_detail/34388

[11] Ghayr Mahram is a stranger, whom one can marry according to Shari’ah. The bride’s representative (wakil) should be present in the Nikah majlis. This can be her father, brother, or paternal or maternal uncle. This wakil will represent the bride in the nikah majlis presided by the Imam. This representative will give her consent to the groom she has chosen. Having the bride and groom present in front of the imam is the cultural practice of other faiths.

 

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