Marriages should not be delayed because of the Pandemic

It was to be a marriage season like any other. Wedding receptions, walimas, etc., but then came along COVID-19. Humans were reminded of who is in sole control of this world.

Some went ahead with their marriage at a much smaller scale e.g. five persons from each side or what is allowed under local health guidelines.

Some held a private marriage at their home with just immediate family members, and not even relatives were invited.

Some have decided to postpone their marriage.

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (fitnah) in the land and discord (fasad).” [Jami’ Tirmidhi, hadith 1084]

Muslim brothers and sisters who have decided to postpone their marriage because of COVID-19 need to reconsider their decisions seriously.

Is COVID-19 going to end?

How will life be post-pandemic?

How will the post-pandemic economy look like?

If restrictions on large gatherings are to remain for the long term, how long are you willing to delay your son’s/daughter’s marriage or consummation (ruksati)? The biological clock does not pause.

Is the marriage being delayed because it is the decision of the parents and/or family elders?

Is it in your son or daughter’s best interest to delay their marriage?

Families that decided to go ahead with the marriage made a wise decision. It is in the couples best interest. In the current climate, a low-key wedding is a wise decision.

Extended family members and friends that are not going to be invited due to crowd restrictions should support the downsized wedding rather than pressuring the family to delay the marriage so they can have a grand wedding to attend. Don’t be an obstacle in a couple’s commencement of a new life journey for your own few hours of enjoyment.